TK Update

The semester is finally over. I am apartment hunting in Lawrence, and I think I might have found something. Keep your fingers crossed for me.

As promised, here's the TK update: He's been on my mind a lot these last few weeks. He's a great guy. He's everything a gal could ask for. So why am I asking for more?

Here's the deal. In an earlier post I explained that that at the start of a relationship I would have a pretty open discussion about my expectations of waiting sexual boundaries. I had this discussion with TK a few weeks ago. I let him know my views, which includes my intention not to have sex before I get married. TK told me he wasn't a virgin, which he didn't really need to do. I mean pretty much no one is, right? Anyway, he told me he felt the same way, and that his relationship with his previous girlfriend kinda went to hell after he boinked her.

I told him that I liked him a lot, but that I couldn't see our relationship going a long way due to the distance thing. He said --and he gets major points for it-- that he just wanted to spend time with me because he liked me, even if we weren't going to get serious. I told him I still intended to go out with other people, but not in a serious way. He said he wasn't planning on going out with others, but that his options were limited. (I don't think his options are that limited.) Anyway, it was a good talk.

For Thanksgiving I was planning to go to my sister's house in Colorado. He offered to give me a ride to and from the airport. I could have driven myself and left my sexy minivan there, but he said he wanted to go because he wanted to go out again before I left. As my flights worked out, it gave us pretty much a whole day in Kansas City prior to my flight leaving. We had a blast. We went shopping at a plaza area (where pretty much everything was out of my price range). We had a good day together. Then he took me to the airport and stayed with me as long as he could. I gave him a short kiss goodbye. I wished we had planned it a little better, so we would have had a little better good-bye.

He picked me up at the airport on Sunday night and took me home, too. That was really sweet. I know he didn't have to, and I know he wasn't getting much in return. He said that spending time together was good enough for him, but I was absolutely wiped out by then, so I'm sure it wasn't much fun for him.

The two major topics of conversation with my sister were transferring schools and my love life. She understood the reasons for transferring and was supportive. She was supportive enough that she mentioned it to dad before I talked to him on Thanksgiving. (For the record, Lawrence is only about ten minutes closer to TK, so that wasn't the reason for the move.) As for my crush on the guy from marketing --the one who likes me but doesn't seem to care that I'm a girl-- she thinks I'm a dope. She thinks I've been wasting time with him to avoid TK.

She got sarcastic and started saying things like nice guys with careers aren't dating material. Drunk guys are more fun. Polite and thoughtful are overrated. Guys who go to work every day are boring. She called me a snob for not wanting to date a farmer who had never gotten drunk at a frat house. (BTW, HER husband has a masters degree.) I know she's right about those things, but darnit, I want a guy I can squeeze a little. I want a guy who is around every day. She thinks a boyfriend on weekends is the best of both worlds. She's my best friend, so I will think about what she said.

So, where will things go with TK? I'll keep you posted. He might help me move. That'll win major points.